A Speech for the Educators Who Carry Us

This week was special.

I had the privilege of speaking at the Mission Valley SELPA Special Education Recognition Awards—a room full of people who make a real difference in the lives of students with disabilities and their families.

As I stood at the podium, I spotted a familiar face in the crowd: Mrs. Kusum Gala. She was one of my daughter Ella’s elementary school teachers. The kind who sticks with you. The kind who sees the whole child. We’ll always be grateful for her quiet strength and unwavering belief in Ella.

I don’t usually share my speeches word for word, but this one felt different. This one was from the heart. It was written during one of those nights when the weight of the future felt too heavy—but the hope of community pulled me through.

Here’s what I said:

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I don’t know about you, but it’s usually in the dead of the night that I find myself face-to-face with my worst fears. It’s when I’m just lying there wide-awake, thinking and pondering about all the things that could happen. I’m left feeling helpless and I hate it – because I know full well there’s nothing I can do about any of it during those ungodly hours.

What gets me the most is the fact that the future is so abundantly unclear. That no matter what I do, no matter how hard I try, there’s only so much I can do. And, that’s terrifying to me.

As Ella’s dad, I’ve been on this journey for almost 16 years now and I’ve had my share of ups and downs. I’ve struggled and I’ve celebrated, but I’ve been with her every single step of the way.

And though I’m still incredibly worried about what the future holds, there’s one thing I do know that inspires me to move forward each day.

It might seem obvious, but I’ve come to understand – and accept – that I don’t have to do it all by myself. That there are people in this world who care just as much, who work just as hard, who devote just as much of their lives to supporting students with special needs, and who are there alongside our children when we, as parents, are unable to do so.

“It’s all of you in this room tonight who have saved me and who continually keep me from succumbing to my worst fears.”

I’m humbled to have this opportunity to personally thank each of you for the honorable work you do.

I’d like to leave you with a quote that describes how I think of each day, especially after one of those tough nights:

“When you keep searching for ways to change your situation for the better, you stand a chance of finding them. When you stop searching, assuming they can’t be found, you guarantee they won’t.”

To the parents out here tonight, I encourage you to join us in the Community Advisory Council so that together, we can build toward a better tomorrow.

For the teachers and staff members in this room, thank you so much for believing in our children, and for your dedication to our students. I thank you from the bottom of my heart.

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I walked away from that stage feeling full of gratitude, of hope, and of deep respect for everyone in that room. It reminded me that we don’t carry this work alone.

We’ve got a lot of work ahead of us. But for now, I’m just thankful we get to do it together.

It’s why the BTR TMRW Center for Advancement exists. To carry forward the work of those who came before us. To join hands with the educators and allies already transforming lives. And to build a future where no parent lies awake wondering if their child will be okay—because they’ll already know they’re not alone.